Build Resilience To Get The Results You Want

We make plans then life happens. Sometimes life is good; we get unexpected opportunities and surprising gifts. Often life is less good: the path we thought was straight has some interesting curves. Obstacles appear where none existed. We get knocked down.
How do you know you will get back up and keep moving? Build the elements of resilience into your life and plans: practice them before you need them. You can be confident that they will support you through struggles and keep you on course through storms.

The three elements are simple: you need a congruent belief in your goals, connections that go deep and wide, and the ability to actually get things done. When you maintain all three, you have what you need when things go wrong.

Begin with the end in mind: competence. What skills do you have and how do you know you have them? Identify the abilities you have and develop them consciously. Practice mindfully, like a top musician or athlete. You are already competent in many areas. When you notice and refine that competence, you strengthen both the skill and the brain that drives it.

Skills are patterns of behaviour that we have repeated often enough so that they move into unconscious process. When we are working to acquire a skill, we think about it. When we have a skill, we just do it. This allows us to make decisions and to take necessary action quickly. We can do the same thing in the same way, over and over.

Paying attention to a skill means pulling it back into conscious awareness so that you can notice it, refine it, and put it to work in new contexts or new ways.

The ability to move behaviours into new contexts is supported by the second element of resilience: connection. All human beings learn by connecting new information to existing patterns of thought and action. All human beings have evolved to learn from the experience of other people, almost as well as we learn from our personal experiences. Connecting to ideas, qualities within ourselves, or other people happens naturally.

When it happens mindfully, connection is like any other skill set. We connect better, more often and with more variety. More information becomes available as we have more experience to which it can connect. Building connections consciously opens the door to making the connections you need when times get tough.

Times only get tough in relation to something you want. That can be as simple as maintaining physical life or as specific as a particular job or accomplishment. When you know what you want, when you visit it often, when you consider it in vibrant detail, you create a beacon. Your goals are the point on the horizon that stays constant and allows you to navigate new roads or stormy waters.

Know what you want. Connect with yourselves and others. Be good at what you do. When life happens, you will be ready for it.

Linda Ferguson, Ph.D. is a senior partner at NLP Canada Training Inc. in Toronto, Canada. With her partner, Chris Keeler, Linda develops training that allows people to experience stronger integrity and better results. Clients experience rapid, sustainable change and long-term learning about how their thinking drives success. Drawing on fields from the arts to business to neuroscience, NLP Canada Training Inc. provides spring-training for the mind: clients sharpen their perceptions, focus their efforts, and become better at knowing what they want and communicating to get it. Read more from Linda at http://www.nlpcanada.com or http://www.squidoo.com/integratedthinking or http://www.nlpcanadatraining.blogspot.com

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